A young man has voiced his deep frustration about the struggles of modern relationships, particularly emphasizing how finding a wife is far more difficult than simply finding a girlfriend. His honest reflection has sparked massive reactions online as many resonated with his words and shared similar experiences about love, dating, and the complexities of commitment in today’s world.
The social media user, identified as FindingKan, took to X (formerly Twitter) to express his thoughts on the challenges of dating in the current generation. According to him, the process of finding someone to build a future with is not the same as finding someone to casually date, as both journeys come with their own unique struggles. He lamented how exhausting relationships can be and revealed that he now prays that his next relationship will be his final one — the one that leads to marriage and lasting peace of mind.
Finding someone to marry is a different hustle
In his post, FindingKan openly admitted that he underestimated how challenging it would be to find someone who truly fits him — someone he can call “his person.” He explained that while it may seem easy to find someone to go on dates with or spend time with, finding someone compatible enough to settle down with for life is a completely different experience. His emotional confession struck a chord with many social media users who have also faced similar disappointments and heartbreaks.
He wrote: “I honestly didn’t realize how difficult it is to FIND YOUR OWN PERSON until now that I’m looking forward to getting married.”
“Bro!!! Finding someone to just date and finding someone to marry are two different hustles.”
“I honestly want to make my next relationship my last because I actually don taya😂”
His heartfelt post quickly went viral, gathering thousands of likes, shares, and comments as users from different walks of life shared their thoughts on why relationships seem harder to maintain in this generation compared to the past.
Mixed reactions trail his post
The post generated a wave of mixed reactions across social media. While some users sympathized with him and agreed that true love has become rare, others argued that many people are simply not ready for commitment or lack the emotional maturity required for a lasting marriage. The discussion evolved into a wider conversation about modern dating expectations, emotional vulnerability, and the pressure to find “the one.”
A user named Japheto responded, sharing his own experience with heartbreak. He said: “The last one I tried, that I said let me be a communicative expressive partner, I paid for it. As I dey like this, I am just hoping for the best.” His comment reflected the frustration of many men who have tried to be open and expressive, only to be met with disappointment.
Olamide also joined the conversation, writing: “I really thought she was gonna be the last, then she left. Now I don’t know what the future holds, I’m just tired.” His comment echoed the pain of people who once believed they had found “the one,” only for the relationship to end unexpectedly, leaving behind confusion and emotional fatigue.
Kenny Chordz added a thoughtful perspective, saying: “That’s why men who find d 1 in their hustling stage, should try and make it work, cause if u loose her and wait till ur financially stable, there may be no 1’s left just d available. U get what I mean.” His advice highlighted how timing and commitment play vital roles in relationships, especially when both partners are still struggling to build their future.
Tracey also shared her own take, pointing out that the struggle is not limited to men alone. She wrote: “I thought it’s only women facing this problem…. it’s really really difficult and most of us are introverts with high family discipline. May God answer our secret prayers sha cause hmmmmm.” Her words reflected the collective longing of many people who desire genuine love but find it hard to meet compatible partners due to personality differences and societal pressures.
Another user, El Royal, took a humorous yet relatable approach, saying: “Omo I no find love again, na money I dey find like this. All this ladies never serious aswear down. Last last I will just be a lonely billionaire. 🔥💯” His comment, while lighthearted, underscored a growing sentiment among young people — that love often feels like a gamble, and some would rather focus on financial success than emotional heartbreak.
As conversations about love, loyalty, and marriage continue to trend online, FindingKan’s post serves as a reminder of the emotional fatigue many people experience in the search for lasting love. His story resonates with countless singles who are caught between the desire for companionship and the fear of repeating painful relationship patterns. The viral post has reignited debates about what true love really means in an era where social media, unrealistic expectations, and emotional walls make genuine connections harder to find.