Life coach, writer, and social commentator Solomon Buchi has once again stirred public debate after a video involving popular skit maker Maraji went viral online. The conversation began when Buchi shared a heartfelt video of a man expressing the emotional and psychological challenges men face while supporting their wives during pregnancy. The man spoke candidly about the sleepless nights, mental pressure, and emotional exhaustion that often come with the journey of fatherhood, emphasizing that men, too, go through a unique form of pregnancy stress — though it is rarely acknowledged by society.
In the video, the man explained that while women carry the physical burden of pregnancy, men are not immune to emotional turmoil. He said that men also experience fear, anxiety, and a sense of helplessness, especially when they see their partners in pain but can do little to ease it. “Women don’t go through pregnancy alone,” he said, “men also do — just in a different way. It’s unfair that society expects men to stay strong without recognizing their struggles.”
Reacting to the man’s statement, Maraji countered strongly, arguing that while men may have their struggles, pregnancy takes an immense toll on women both physically and emotionally. She noted that women face severe symptoms such as nausea, hormonal imbalance, fatigue, depression, and anxiety — all while nurturing life inside them. According to her, men’s emotional discomfort cannot be compared to the deep, painful, and often life-threatening experience women go through during pregnancy. She asked rhetorically, “Why should anyone care about you when you are supposed to be the support system to your wife?” Her statement quickly gained attention, with many women echoing her view that the focus during pregnancy should primarily be on the mother.
However, Solomon Buchi, known for his thoughtful takes on relationships and gender balance, stepped in to defend the man’s perspective. He explained that acknowledging the emotional struggles of expectant fathers does not in any way invalidate the pain or effort of women. Instead, it helps to create a more balanced understanding of what both partners experience during pregnancy. Buchi said:
“The man didn’t make any unfair comparisons, nor did he try to diminish his wife’s journey through pregnancy and childbirth. He is only shedding light on something society rarely talks about — that men also have feelings, fears, and emotional burdens. The fact that a man is not carrying the child doesn’t mean he isn’t carrying weight in another way.”
Buchi went on to explain that pregnancy can also trigger anxiety and emotional fatigue in men, especially when they are deeply involved in the process. He added:
“We need to understand the duality of the human experience. It’s possible for you to do what is rightly your obligation — to support your partner — yet still feel drained, lonely, or emotionally exhausted. Constant anxiety, sleepless nights, and the fear of losing someone you love are very real feelings that can affect expectant fathers deeply. Ignoring that reality doesn’t make it disappear.”
His comments opened the floor for a larger discussion on social media, with many users sharing their experiences and opinions. Some people agreed that men’s emotional struggles are often overlooked and that they, too, deserve compassion during the pregnancy journey. Others, however, argued that men’s pain should never be compared to the physical and mental suffering women endure. The debate highlighted the ongoing need for emotional understanding between partners during pregnancy, encouraging empathy and communication rather than comparison.
The conversation has since gone viral, with thousands of comments flooding platforms like TikTok, X (formerly Twitter), and Instagram. Many people praised Buchi for promoting empathy for men, while others felt his stance could shift attention away from women’s central role during pregnancy. Regardless of the differing opinions, one thing became clear — both men and women face unique challenges during the journey to parenthood, and each deserves to be acknowledged and supported.
Watch the full video below and join the conversation as Solomon Buchi and Maraji continue to spark discussion on the emotional realities of parenthood, love, and mutual support between partners.
@solomon_buchi The feelings and struggles of expectant fathers definitely matter @maraji_ and I don’t think he made unfair comparisons neither did he invalidate his wife’s journey through pregnancy and childbirth. He’s saying something that we should all listen to — men go through the motions, and it can be a tough conversation because men already feel guilty for feeling any negative emotion since their wives are the ones carrying the main pain. This video wasn’t enough to share my full experience — I did all the home chores for 9 months, moved houses, attended every appointment, worked tirelessly, and still had to be strong. It’s as new an experience for men as it is for women, and invalidating anyone’s pain because we feel ours deserves the center stage won’t help intimacy. This conversation should be handled with care, especially because most men already find it hard to express their emotions. #father #mother #solomonbuchi #family #creatorsearchinsights ♬ original sound – SolomonBuchi